Tuesday, June 28, 2005
Personal Attacks on Me are Welcome Here
I just got told to not launch "personal attacks" on a blog.
In a comment, I had written: "Another stupid remark..."
This calling a remark "stupid" was considered a "personal attack".
I was asked not to call a person or a statement "stupid".
I said "okay".
My Policy Re: Personal Attacks Against Me
Now I want you all to please listen up.
You have my permission to call me "stupid".
You have my permission to call any of my statements "stupid".
If you think I said something stupid, or if you think that I am in general stupid, please feel free to state your opinion.
I will be more disappointed if you remain silent and keep your opinions to yourself.
A Seemingly Abusive Comment That Was Really Helpful To Me
I once posted an artwork that I thought was all mystical and profound and such.
This was at my Art Test Explosion blog.
I got this comment: "This looks like a diseased [part of body where the birds don't fly and the sun doesn't shine]."
Did I get mad? Did I delete the "abusive comment"? Did I consider a harsh statement about my artwork to be a "personal attack" against me as a person?
But I did delete the artwork along with the accompanying comment. But it was because I agreed with the comment.
As I gazed at that specific artwork, I felt the comment was correct. Was this comment harsh? No.
Was it vulgar? Yes, in the language used, but it got my attention more than a softer expression would have.
I may not have used the same word [which I deleted here for reasons of taste and polite society], but this comment was helpful to me.
This shocking but sincere comment caused me to look at the art through the eyes of another person.
Perhaps many visitors saw the artwork in this way, but were too timid to express their perception. I was so happy that the person expressed his reaction so vividly.
Sometimes soft speech sucks.
Sometimes "diplomacy" is cowardly and ineffective.
Sometimes harsh is good.
I've had people be sarcastic, angry, crude, and bitter in comments to my blogs.
But I've never considered, so far, any comments to be hateful or crazy. I learn a lot from harsh criticisms. Only crybabies fear harsh comments.
So, without passing judgement on the blogger who asked me to not call people or statements "stupid", I want to state my policy here.
Call me "stupid" if you think I am. Maybe sometimes I do act or talk stupidly. If I hear about it, then I can correct myself and be smarter.
Remember, truly stupid people don't think they're stupid, which is why they're so stupid.
Please avoid really vulgar expressions, racism, sexism, and other really Hate Speech statements that are only designed to harm, hurt, damage, or stir up needless trouble.
But don't worry about my feelings. I don't have any. I'm a blog zombie. Ha! Just jesting (joking).
Now I'll shut up and wait to hear from YOU.
What do you think?
What's your opinion about harsh comments?
How do you define "abusive comments"?
Have you ever deleted any comments on your blog?
Have you ever been scolded for posting a harsh comment?
Have you ever been banned from a site due to your comments?
vaspersthegrate [at] yahoo [dot] com
[signed] Steven Streight aka Vaspers the Grate
Posted by steven edward streight at 6/28/2005 02:24:00 PM